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Our Wedding Was So Gay
Our wedding was intentionally super gay. And not just a little gay, or simply gay because two men were getting wed, but rather an attempt at planning every facet of our big day with the goal of honoring queer stories, past leaders, and current rockstars affecting change in the LGBTQ+ community. We set out to have the gayest wedding ever, and to be honest…
Voting While Trans
This coming midterm election is undoubtedly one of the most politically charged that i have seen in my lifetime. Whichever side of the aisle you’re on, you must admit that since the presidential election “business as usual” has changed dramatically, and many unprecedented behaviors and policy decisions have occurred. In my life as an American one thing has been made clear to me: the ability to vote is undeniably tethered to American citizenship and is to be taken seriously. Now, what if I told you that isn’t true for transgender people?
The Transgender Bathroom Situation
I want you to think back a bit. Before the infamous House Bill 2 in North Carolina in 2016, which restricted trans individuals from using the bathroom aligned with their gender, how much did you think about trans people using the bathroom? I imagine, unless you are, or are related to, a trans person, not a whole lot. I’m in my mid-30s and never, not once, have I gone into the men’s room wondering if any of the people using the bathroom are trans. So why on earth did this bill get made in the first place? Let’s get to the bottom of it…
And Your Bride-to-Be?
I’m getting married this year! In fact it’s like 8 weeks away, and I am feeling all the feelings about it. Anyone who has ever planned a wedding knows that there are so many people to call and talk to and plan to orchestrate the whole thing. In my relationship, I’m that person, and I love it. It has been fun to pick venues, build our wedding website, and taste test cake! My fiancé and I aren’t particularly tied to any of the major traditional aspects of a wedding, which has made it fun to figure out how we want our wedding to be outside of the expectation. However, there are certain things that must be done, like getting tuxedos or reserving hotel rooms. These mundane tasks have taken an interesting turn for me as the planner. Every call I make and email I receive is drenched in good old heteronormativity. For those of you who see that word and think, “here we go again, another new crazy word for me to worry about,” I’ll try to explain it quickly.
El Orgullo en la Ciudad de Mexico
First of all, this post is LONG overdue! I’m sorry for the delay in getting it typed up. To be honest, after having such an amazing Gay Pride experience in Mexico City, only to return to the US where families are still facing the separation of their children for seeking asylum… I just needed a minute. Here we go…
It’s Never Been About a Wedding Cake
I’ve read and heard all the sides of this: conservative Christians rejoice at the fact that a conservative Christian “won his right” to discriminate; legal scholars say that this case does almost nothing to address this issue as the ruling was incredibly narrow and didn’t set any real precedent; and even some queer people have said, “well I wouldn’t want to be forced to do something in service of the Trump campaign… so maybe I agree with this in a way.” All of these points are valid, and this case can be dissected a million different ways to say whatever the pundit wants. One thing is absolute through all of it: queer people exist, so just stop it.
It’s LGBTQ+ Pride Month or Fascism
I know I know… fascism is a terrifying word. Due to our schooling, in America we think of fascism in broad strokes: the Holocaust, Cuba, Arab Spring. But it isn’t like one day everyone woke up and said, “Wow… we live in a fascist country. That’s not great.” It was a slow, whittling away of rights, of visibility and of the balance of power. And to see it plain as day in the United States of America, you have no further to look than June. Since the 70’s June has been unofficially the month for LGBTQ+ Pride (especially here in NYC), and during his administration, Barack Obama put a ring on it and made it official. What does this have to do with fascism? Well the Trump Administration has done the worst thing you can do to a marginalized population: ignore it.
I Come Out Every Day
The nature of being a queer person is very interesting. We don’t typically have two parents who are also LGBTQ+; we don’t typically know that we are a part of our minority group until middle childhood; no one can tell us that we are a part of the queer community, we have to come to that conclusion ourselves; in order to get support, we have to out ourselves and hope for the best. Now do that every day…
But, How Do You Know?
“When did you choose?” “What makes you so sure?” “Have you TRIED it yet?” “How did you decide?”
Queer people have heard all of these questions, and their many variations. And each time, I am certain the person who is asking is curious; they want to understand, and for the most part, are genuine and well-intended. It is awesome that they want to know how it works, and I want to make sure I stress that asking a question like this doesn’t make you a bad person. That said, please stop asking these questions. Why, you may ask? Well…
Yes, You Can Fire Me For Being Gay
Seriously, in 29 states right now, in 2018, if an employee chooses to come out at work (ya know, like even just mentions being married to a same sex partner) they can be fired on the spot and the state does absolutely nothing to protect them. The passage of marriage equality actually has had a bizarre negative effect on LGBTQ+ people living in these states. There has been more than one case of a person getting married over the weekend, coming back to work on Monday, mentioning that they got married over the weekend, and fired the same day. This has been particularly common in religious institutions like Catholic school. So why is this a problem?
What’s the deal with conversion therapy?
Is conversion therapy really therapeutic? First, let’s talk about what conversion “therapy” is. Conversion therapy is a practice born out of the Christian conservative population to assist LGBTQ identified people to “convert” back to being straight and cisgender (non-transgender). It is more often used on young men to convince them that they aren’t homosexual, that those desires are of the devil, and that it’s likely because of a distant relationship with the father in the home or an overbearing mother (Freud much?).
Why Is June LGBTQ+ Pride Month?
< Return to The Proud Path Blog How did the LGBTQ+ community settle on June for Pride Month? It might seem like it's entirely random, but there is a good reason for LGBTQ+ pride month to be in June. The fight for LGBTQ+ rights has been going on for a very long...
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