Our wedding was intentionally super gay. And not just a little gay, or simply gay because two men were getting wed, but rather an attempt at planning every facet of our big day with the goal of honoring queer stories, past leaders, and current rockstars affecting change in the LGBTQ+ community. We set out to have the gayest wedding ever, and to be honest…

I’m getting married this year! In fact it’s like 8 weeks away, and I am feeling all the feelings about it. Anyone who has ever planned a wedding knows that there are so many people to call and talk to and plan to orchestrate the whole thing. In my relationship, I’m that person, and I love it. It has been fun to pick venues, build our wedding website, and taste test cake! My fiancé and I aren’t particularly tied to any of the major traditional aspects of a wedding, which has made it fun to figure out how we want our wedding to be outside of the expectation. However, there are certain things that must be done, like getting tuxedos or reserving hotel rooms. These mundane tasks have taken an interesting turn for me as the planner. Every call I make and email I receive is drenched in good old heteronormativity. For those of you who see that word and think, “here we go again, another new crazy word for me to worry about,” I’ll try to explain it quickly.

The nature of being a queer person is very interesting. We don’t typically have two parents who are also LGBTQ+; we don’t typically know that we are a part of our minority group until middle childhood; no one can tell us that we are a part of the queer community, we have to come to that conclusion ourselves; in order to get support, we have to out ourselves and hope for the best. Now do that every day…

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